Death in psychology




Second, what we need to figure out - is that our nesoznayuschy mind does not distinguish between desire and act. Any of us can retell a dream devoid of logic, which adjoin mutually developments and approval - it is acceptable in dreams but unthinkable in the vigil. Just as we have in his nesoznayuschem mind can not distinguish between the desire to kill the anger of someone from the act of murder, a young child is unable to distinguish between fantasy and reality. The child, who, angry and wished that his mother died, because of the fact that it has not complied with his request to be highly traumatized her actual death. He will always repeat itself and, more rarely, other: what I did, I am guilty, I was bad, so my mother left me... When we grow and start to understand that it is not so almighty to make the impossible possible, the fear that we are to blame for the death of dear man, is declining, and with it the feeling of guilt. The fear of fading, but at some point suddenly increases. It is clearly visible on the faces of people walking on the hospital corridors, or in those who suffered great loss. A married couple can quarrel for years, but after the death of his wife's husband begins to lament, to cry in repentance and fear, will become even more afraid of his own death, believing in the law "an eye for an eye, tooth for tooth", "I'm to blame for her death, I am for it die a pitiful death. " Perhaps knowing this, it is easier to understand for centuries followed many customs and rituals, whose purpose was to mitigate the wrath of the gods or society, to reduce the expected punishment. I am thinking of sackcloth, the veil, women's cries of ancient times - all this means to cause to mourn the loss of compassion, ways of expressing grief, sorrow, remorse. Man shoots himself in the mountain in the chest, fetches one's hair, refuses to eat, thus trying to punish yourself and avoid the coming of eternal punishment or mitigate the punishment to which he is waiting for the death of a beloved person. Feelings of grief, remorse, guilt is not so far from anger or rage. Sorrow always brings anger. Since none of us wants to be angry at the deceased, these emotions are often disguised or suppressed and are a manifestation of grief or expressed differently, keep in mind that our task - is not regarded such feelings as bad or shameful, but try to understand their true origins as something extremely extent, inherent in man. To illustrate, I once again cite the example of a child - the child in all of us. The five-year-old boy, lost his mother, and blames himself for her disappearance, and angry at her for what she left him, and deaf to their requests. The child loves and yearns for his deceased appearance, but so is abundantly hates him for his Odinochestvo.

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